My Life

My life as now considerably changed. My wife died just 2 years and one week ago on 26 September 2020 and now has our beloved daughter on 4 October 2022. It is believed that she had a Grand Mal seizure from which she never recovered, although her carers, Paramedics and A&E did all they could. She stopped breathing from 3pm on Tuesday and did not recommence. CPR compressions were commence immediately as was requesting emergency assistance, which arrived within 15 mins by 2 ambulances with 4 paramedics in attendance. Perhaps not within the official target times, but in these days of much crisis, very much quicker than I had expected. However, a Post mortem will be required, thereby delaying further arrangements until done and hopefully an Inquest will not be required. We do complain about our NHS, but we would be so much worse without it and they do so well with the limited resources that have had over many years. Yes, many improvements have been sustained, but much more could be achieved with sufficient funding. Health are still having to find areas to cut back on, supposed making savings in areas. but, in reality there are no savings to be made and cuts in many essential services are being done to achieve these so called savings. Adding to this is the very severe crisis in socal care, both in local authorities and all areas of the social care sector, here, again cuts are having to be made, when in reality the opposite needs to occur. Currently, only critical care is main being considered, when to be really effective all need to be, moderate and below, for by not doing so needs do become critical in a very short time. If, needs have been dealt with well before, then the move to critical could well have been diminished or not even occur. By not funding this places excessive burdens on health and much so on NHS resources, thus adding the health care crisis. This is in addition to the very severe staffing shortage in both health and social care. Not only sufficient numbers joining the respective areas, but many leaving due to very low morale and better prospects out of these areas. Are you aware that home care staff with perhaps minimal training perhaps days, but in some instances only hours, while medial health staff undergo months and even years of training and still not allowed to do some tasks which home care staff have to do as there is no others to do so and the Government and many of the general public have the audacity to says that social care carers are unskilled for to do as it needs and should be they have to be extremely skilled, while only receiving a pittance in return. Many in poor working conditions, no or very insufficient travel allowance for mileage or even travel time, no real sick pay and some not even some holiday pay. Bank holidays having no meaning as there is virtually no enhance pay for working Bank Holidays for they are counted as just another working day. Outside of the care profession this would not be countenanced. Added to this is the UK Immigration policy in which the needs of care staff are not a consideration, but needs to be as the profession needs non-UK care workers to supplement the lack of uptake from UK residents. This is down to the abysmal pay scales, working conditions and much more, so it is not non-UK workers bringing down levels, but it is manufactured lack of concern and at times deliberate not wishing to by this current Government and all previous Governments, in fact, in reality back to 1948 or maybe well before. I mention 1948 as this was when the NHS was originally created and at that time a formal creation of social care should also have arisen, in that the NHS and social care should have been recognised together. Why in social care are some health conditions classed as health and others social care, so that health conditions re still free at point of delivery, while those that are social care are not and have to be paid for, in some respects by each individual in receipt of social care, although at a reduced rate while in life. But in death repayment of the costs is required up to a set cap. No matter what is put out by the Government, it is still required for any property to be sold on death to ensure repayments are made up to the cap. but not so in health. This is pure and simple discrimination for persons on Social care, which should be illegal. It is said the UK can’t afford it, but it does if pet projects are required. Not saying we shouldn’t as we should, but with the Ukraine/Russian war, no one says we can’t afford to fund this weaponry for Ukraine as it is said Ukraine needs it, which it certainly does, but so do persons in UK social care. So, the death of my daughter is a two-fold benefit to the Government, as it has created a reduction in the welfare bill as her ESA and PIP will now stop and her extensive and costly care package is no longer. Perhaps this Government should congratulate her for her death causing all these reductions in costs.

One thought on “My Life

  1. The Post Mortem has now been done and the report states that my daughter died of a heart attack, with no signs of any seizure. Death would have been instantaneous, which is a blessing.

    The cremation is now on 1 November 2022

    We are all devasted, but now her suffering has now gone and she is with her beloved mother whose death was 2 years and 1 week earlier.

    They are both very sadly missed.


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