Will you help us campaign for a better deal?

As the political picture takes shape, it’s something we can address right now, making the most of Carers Week to raise awareness and seek action from a wide variety of people, services, employers and communities.

And it’s something we need to work together to address over the coming months: the new Government must build a better future for carers.


Source: Will you help us campaign for a better deal?

The struggle against autism discrimination – Bexhill Observer

In recent months, Jay Brewerton has been banned from the same fast food outlet twice, refused service in a cafe and asked to leave various shops, all because of her disabled six-year-old son.

Source: The struggle against autism discrimination – Bexhill Observer

Work vs Rest.


One of the things that is talked about a lot when it comes to dealing with stress, and overloads in autistic people is rest days; basically just taking a day to relax, and not having to worry about doing anything.  It might be a set day each week, or it might just be decided depending on how the individual feels day to day.  I myself talk about them, and advise autistic people to take them, and not to feel guilty for not doing much on those days.  But as much as I talk about them, and know them to be a good thing I still find it hard to take my own advice, and let myself have days off.  I find that I have a lot to fit in; I write both books and articles, I edit my work, I like to read, work out, and watch films most days…

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We Can All Stop ISIS Right Now.

My Spiritual Interpretations

Yes, this is the truth. We all have the power to stop ISIS right now if we really wanted to. It starts first with everyone getting on the same page. Americans and others around the world calling for extermination of Muslims, need to go read the Quran, OR simply follow my blog, OR any other muslim who speaks about the Quran and interprets it. But to be honest, the best way to educate yourself is to read it yourself. I know..it’s 500 pages, but trust me. It’s a page turner. Soon as it gets to the End of the Universe, it will have you by the seat of your pants and you won’t want to put it down.

I read the Quran in 48 hours the first time reading it. I could not stop.

After everyone removes their ignorance and carries knowledge with them, then Americans and others who have the…

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People, like water, must be filtered.

This is so correct. You appear to be a person who follows a true path, what a shame all are not able or unwilling to to do so.


the mat at the doorShould we let anyone into our house? Of course we shouldn’t. There is a reason why the front door locks. It is common fact that not everyone has our best interest in mind. People will try to use us if we allow them. It’s as though they have their goals and their agendas and nothing outside of them reaching it matters. Some others just bring drama with them. They are always complaining about something, They are never satisfied or happy, and they are more than willing to tell you about it. And lastly, there is a group of people who love to stir the pot. They instigate and cause problems. They will give the worst advice and look down at us for not taking it. People are like water. They must be filtered.

There are different types of people that we should use extreme caution with.

  • The first group I call “head…

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Be Vocal, Speak Up for mental health

tasha truths

Every year, millions of people across the world are affected by mental health conditions. Their experience can be further complicated due to challenges including a limitation of knowledge or access to health care. By speaking up about mental health issues we can help to educate those who don’t understand mental health. Many of these millions suffering from mental health issues may not even know what they are suffering from, so certainly don’t know how to help themselves. The aim is to live in a world where people aren’t afraid to speak up about their mental illness. There is such a stigma about mental health that many people feel afraid or judged to openly say that they are struggling and speak help but this can change. Through being vocal we can remove this stigma and help mental health to be talked about like any other illness, as that’s what it is…

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Why you shouldn’t swim with dolphins

Thank you for this post, which is very informative and very eloquently states the reality of dolphins in captivity. We should all be aware of this and not support any organisation which enslaves the dolphins for profit and entertainment.

All should be free to live their own lives as they wish.

Hannah's unprivate mind

Everyone finds dolphins cute. They always look like they’re smiling. Aww.

Most people would love to swim with dolphins.

Most people are also unaware or oblivious to the fact that these dolphins held in captivity are abused, and they should not be kept captive for our own entertainment. We should not swim with them.

Captive Dolphins

Captive dolphins are kept constantly hungry as part of their training and to ensure they perform. Dolphins in the wild do not jump through hoops, eat dead fish, wave, kiss or drag people through the water as they hold onto their fins. This is all behaviour forced on them in captivity. Without routine starvation the dolphins would not perform. Can you imagine how this must feel?

Wild dolphins constantly travel, covering thousands of miles every year experiencing a wide diversity of natural habitat and the freedom to deep dive. Can you imagine what it must be like to be…

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‘…………March 10th, 2015 ADVOCACY

Barton Cutter


A leadership coach and writer, Barton Cutter combines his experience of living with cerebral palsy, uncompromising wit, and professional background in leadership development to empower people with and without disabilities to discover a vision of inde.

One evening several years ago, my wife Megan and I headed out to dinner and a night on the town. As what is common in those days, I was in my manual wheelchair as we did not have an accessible vehicle at the time.

We strolled around downtown looking at our various options and as we were enjoying our conversation with one another, I noticed a questionable man tracing our footsteps. He seemed to be going out of his way not to be noticed by anyone, particularly us. I pointed him out to Megan and we walked on, both of us keeping an eye on his movement.

After a few minutes, he went from trying to remain hidden and in the background to attempting to close the distance between us. As he did so, every internal alarm in me alerted me to this situation, and I shifted my entire presence toward him, letting him know it was not wise idea to approach further.

At once, a look of complete astonishment swept over his face, and just as quickly as it appeared, the expression then transformed again into what may even be considered embarrassment as he darted off into the crowd, never to be seen again.

People with disabilities are three times more likely to become victims of bullying, assault and other crimes than others. Some people may see someone with a disability as an easy target. Yet, we can avoid a potential attack.


1. Personal safety begins with awareness.

How often do you talk on your cell phone, oblivious to your surroundings? Trust me, we all have fallen into that distraction trap. But if we put the phone down, and watch where we are walking and who is around us, we are much more apt to detect a situation that is malevolent. For as clique as it may sound, the simple act of avoiding a confrontation can minimize the likelihood of being attacked by nearly 75 percent.

2. Shift your posture.

When we are younger, our parents may nag, “Sit up straight.” Amazingly, there is something to it. Whether you are standing up straight or sitting up straight, holding your head up with an open posture allows you to be more aware of what is going on around you. Good posture increases your peripheral vision and heightens your sense of hearing. Knowing what is around you either by sight, noise of even scent can alert you to potential danger.

When we carry ourselves with confidence, no matter whether we are sitting, standing or lying down, that confidence lets others know that you are not a push-over or weakened by your circumstances. Often, projecting this confidence goes far beyond the physical posture.

For example, I don’t sit perfectly straight all of the time. And yet, it is clear when I own my space and surroundings, and when I am not. This may be as simple as looking up rather than at the ground, scanning our surroundings rather than keeping our eyes locked in one position, or it may also mean relaxing ourselves internally so that we are not bound by fear.

Equally as important, when you are walking or driving your chair somewhere, know where you are going, own it, and head there with a purpose. This does not mean that you have to rush everywhere. Yet, neither does it mean that we dawdle or look unsure of where we are going.

3. Where is your safe space?

Whether you are in your own home or out in the community, we all need to define a safe space, a place where we can go in an emergency. For people with disabilities, it may also mean having alternative modes of communication such as having In Case of Emergency notes in our phones.

Along with knowing where to go, just as important is how to get there. Where are the exits in a building? What is on the other side of them, and are they accessible? What is between you and your escape route? Are other people with you? All of the questions are things to think about in crowds, traveling or out and about in the community.

4. Reactions in time of stress.

When I feel stressed, I don’t always communicate well because I have a lot to say, and it feels like the words just won’t come out. And, I may not be able to drive my wheelchair as well because muscle spasms become more uncontrollable. We all have different reactions to stress. Knowing how we respond, and what to do to calm down can help keep our heads clear. Techniques such as breathing or finding a quiet place may help keep our emotions calm.

Just as we react to stress in different ways, so may our families, direct support staff or care givers. Many times, we must work together as a team in difficult situations, and building the relationship with your team can give you the confidence you need in unfamiliar situations.

5. Personal Space.

Perimeter distance is the space you occupy, and for many of us, it’s our personal space. If you extend your arm or leg and spin in a circle, this is your perimeter distance. Similarly, if you use a wheelchair or crutch, this distance may be the edge of a footrest, the space if you can hold with your crutch extended. Many of us don’t like someone coming into our personal space without being invited.

It could be as simple as standing next to someone in an elevator or leaning in to talk to someone in a wheelchair. We give non-verbal clues to others about approaching this personal space. For example, if I’m being misunderstood, I may speak in a way where someone needs to lean in closer to me to listen. If I want more space, my leg may jet out, giving a barrier for someone who is approaching.

6. Don’t be afraid to be rude.

If you find yourself approaching a situation that makes you feel uncomfortable such as an elevator with only one other person on it, do not feel obligated to put yourself in that position our of courtesy. Using a mobility devise may make us feel more vulnerable, and it’s okay to say no to something we do not feel comfortable with.

Trust your gut. If something feels odd, find a way around it. And don’t worry about hurting the other person’s feelings. In fact, chances are if the other person is a good-hearted individual, they will recognize the situation and not take offense anyway.

See Also: Disabled Black-Belt, Defense Coach Fends Off Would-be Mugger

7. Personal Choice.

In life-threatening situations, we may feel afraid and not know what to do. No matter what anyone else may tell you, surviving the situation is success. This does not just apply to scenarios of bullying or assault. During our lifetime, we find ourselves in a many different situations: natural disaster, a car wreck, job change, or change in living situations, just to name a few.

Many times, after we’ve lived through tough situations, we may question what we could or should have done. As much as you can, let it go, and be compassionate with yourself; you’ve lived to see another day.

8. Being Aware of the Tools We Have.

We have heard and been touched by tragic situations that have involved tools of malice. School shootings, break-ins, thefts, we hear about them on the news every day. But we each have tools that we can use just as easily. Our voices, our confidence, our personality can all be considered tools, just as our hands, legs, mobility devices or what we are carrying with us.

As a martial artist and self-defense instructor, I advocate that if you choose to use a tool for self-defense, such as mace, you have continual training to know how it works, and how it can be used against you.

9. Expand Your Sense of Your Environment.

How often do we go through the day without knowing how we got there? Just as we need to become more aware of our environment, we also need to be aware of our senses. This may be visual, auditory or feeling textures. It may be that we are aware our wheelchairs will get stuck in gravel, that walkers are not that great for off-roading, or crowds may not be the best for someone with an intellectual disability. It may also be that we create relationships to build trust with other people in our community.

10. Trust Your Gut.

No matter who we are or what our ability, we all have what many refer to as intuition, that feeling inside. This is the combination of all of your other senses and the data that they provide, and at the same time it is a separate sense equally as vital and informative as the other five. Particularly people with disabilities may not trust this feeling. After all, there are times when we may rely on others, and we feel silly.

And yet, this internal feeling has, over the generations, been known for saving lives of people, no matter what their background or walk of life. Learn to understand and listen to what it’s telling you.

The bottom line is: We are all more powerful than we give ourselves credit for.

When we find ourselves in an emergency situation, as long as you make a choice to survive, you increase you chances of sustaining yourself.

As I have developed a curriculum for adaptive self-defense, I have a firm belief that we all should have training to keep us more alert and safe while we are out in our community.

Unfortunately, there are people in this world who want to do harm, but those with disabilities do not have to be dis-empowered. In fact, having training gives us the confidence to be more involved and find inclusion in our community.

Read More: hat to Do When Children with Disabilities are Bullied

Photography Credit: Megan Cutter…………..’