Iain Mansfield: To bring greater fairness to families, free childcare should be linked to the transferable tax allowance | Conservative Home


There is a profound unfairness in the way the state supports families with pre-school children. Whilst significant support is rightly offered, in the form of tax-free childcare and 30 hours of free childcare a week, to couples in which both parents work, nothing is offered to families in which one parent chooses to remain at home, caring full time for their children. This is not only deeply unjust, but it utterly undervalues the important work done by those – often, but by no means exclusively, women – who make this choice.

Many people argue that the Government should not impose one form of lifestyle upon families. But the status quo, by embedding such a large disparity in support, does precisely this: it strongly encourages a family in which both parents work and discourages the equally valid choice in which one parent chooses to look after their own children.  All subsidies distort choices, and at over £5,500 a year – about a fifth of the median household income – the level of disparity is of a scale to fundamentally distort the choices and options available to most families.

In reality, every family is different. In some families, it is absolutely right for them that both parents go back to work. In others it may be better, both for the parents and for the well-being of the children, if one parent – whether they are a man or a woman – stays at home to look after those children. It all depends on both the talents and inclination of the parents and the nature and needs of the children concerned. In an ideal society, each family would be able to make that choice depending on what was best for them and their children; however, under our current system, only the former is given support. This means that many parents are forced back to work as the only affordable option, even if when that is neither economically efficient nor what they wish to do. Increasingly, caring for one’s own children is becoming a luxury available only to those that have at least one high-earning parent.

 

Source: Iain Mansfield: To bring greater fairness to families, free childcare should be linked to the transferable tax allowance | Conservative Home

Don’t Let Memories Die


Memories are our own history and is important to ourselves and our family to record as much as we can.

I do wish I had done this, especially with regards to my own parents, for they are no longer with us and these memories are now lost for ever.

Author -Carole Parkes

As an avid family historian, I’m a great believer in memoirs and autobiographies. If your aged family members are capable, encourage them to give you a written piece on  their life experiences. If that would be too difficult, encourage them to talk about their lives — the times they laughed until their sides ached, or when sadness overtook them, in fact, to tell you about everything, including what they remember about great uncle Fred.

I know, it’s not always easy in our busy lives to find time to sit and talk but, just remember, those frail relatives will probably not be around when you finally do have the time to spend with them. I’ve lost count of the times I’ve heard those researching their family trees say they wished they’d asked the questions. Please don’t be one of them. We often only develop an interest in our roots as we…

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Donald Trump is my ex-husband [Updated]


When we met, he smiled, complimented my looks, took me to fine restaurants, took me dancing. He showed me off, flashing me on his arm like expensive cufflinks. He swept me off my feet, showered me with attention, overwhelmed me with the intensity of his desire for me. He told me how great and accomplished he was and how lucky I was to have him, marveled at the confluence of events in the universe that had brought us together. One month after the day we met he told me he loved me, and one month after that he proposed. Not so much proposed as began talking about how we would be married some day, as though it were the most natural assumption in the world, the inevitable result of our miraculous joining. He said that having a ceremony was almost redundant because we were already married in God’s eyes, yet it was urgent that we marry as soon as possible because the only way we could be together physically was within the sanctity of marriage, which was the only way he wanted his

 

Source: Donald Trump is my ex-husband [Updated]

Diana reveals how parents never told her they loved her | Daily Mail Online


Diana’s revelations came from interviews with her voice coach Peter Settelen, where she spoke candidly on hers and Charles’broken marriage, their ‘very odd’ sex life and her upbringing.

Source: Diana reveals how parents never told her they loved her | Daily Mail Online

Joke : Relationship Confusion


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A psychiatrist visited a California mental institution and asked a patient, ‘How did you get here? What was the nature of your illness?’ He got the following reply.

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‘Well, it all started when I got married and I guess I should never have done it. I married a widow with a grown daughter who then became my stepdaughter.

My dad came to visit us, fell in love with my lovely stepdaughter, then married her. And so my stepdaughter was now my stepmother. Soon, my wife had a son who was, of course, my daddy’s brother-in-law since he is the half-brother of my stepdaughter, who is now, of course, my daddy’s wife.

So, as I told you, when my stepdaughter married my daddy, she was at once my stepmother! Now, since my new son is brother to my stepmother, he also became my uncle. As you know, my wife is my…

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UK marriage law is out of step with the times | Joshua Rozenberg | Opinion | The Guardian


The Law Commission is planning to reform outdated legislation that – among its inconsistencies – allows those of some faiths to marry outdoors, but not others

Source: UK marriage law is out of step with the times | Joshua Rozenberg | Opinion | The Guardian

Pope Francis makes annulment of marriages cheaper and easier


A further wise action by Pope Francis, he is going some way to bring Catlolicism into the 21st century, which will be seen to encourage more persons to become catholics and for more to remain to be so.

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Pope Francis makes annulment of marriages cheaper and easier
http://www.cnn.com/2015/09/07/living/pope-francis-annulments-preview/index.html

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Does Islam Teach the Wife to Obey the Husband?


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Hadith And Women

KS Answering Questions after a presentation on the Methodology of study of Surah Nisa

Does Islam say that the Wife Should Obey the Husband? Why are Marriages under Stress?

Several readers and listeners (to my presentations on women and islam) have pointed to certain lists and posts which are propagating the claim that according to Islam, the wife should Obey the husband. These scholars are saying that if a wife leaves the house for any reason, she must ask her husband’s permission.

Answer by Br. Kaukab Siddique: We must realize that according to the Qur’an, authority belongs to ALLAH ALONE. [1] Any attempt to give authority to any human being is SHIRK, which is the only sin Allah does not forgive.

The Qur’an is a progressive revelation which went through stages of development of the Muslim woman and the Muslim male. In the final analysis, male-female relations in…

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