Lorien Norman, 26 year old mother, walks free after being convicted of bashing her eight-month-old daughter with a kitchen utensil – after judge rules the baby’s injuries ‘will get better’


What planet are these judges on, they have absolutely understanding whats so ever. Yes, the physical injuries may disappear.but will there be any physiological damage to the child.

This woman has no idea regarding parenting and apparently also the judge.

Women can be just as evil as men, now whether this is the new modern feminist woman we will have to wait and see.

Justice, this is no justice.

Without Obamacare we could have been saying goodbye


I woke up one morning thinking of her and cried. I knew something was wrong. Still too stubborn to call her, I called my auntie and learned that my mother was scheduled for a biopsy because of a sizable lump in her breast. Soul connected.

I ran home to my mama. I booked a one-way flight to New Orleans, told my job that I wouldn’t be back until I knew she was ok and that they could do whatever they needed to in response. Thankfully, my board picked up the slack until I could return.

By the time my mama was diagnosed with breast cancer, I could see the lump in her breast without touching it. Like a lot of poor people, she waited until she was in significant pain before seeing a doctor. She’d never had stable health insurance before Obamacare so she always worried too much about cost.

Thanks to Obamacare she was able to stop worrying about the cost of her healthcare and focus on healing her body.

And she and I connected like never before. I stood by her side through numerous appointments. I used all the middle class lessons I’d learned since leaving home and advocated on her behalf for better care, shorter waits, more detailed information. I stood next to her every moment I could, and when doctors insisted that I needed t

 

Source: Without Obamacare we could have been saying goodbye:Daily Kos

Hope


We are all different so why should one person react the same as another, why not accept and respect a person for who there are, not how others wish them to be.

Bear this in mind and you and your son will come through.

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He’s 6, he has beautiful big brown eyes, a head full of lushious dark hair and Gorgeous olive skin.

He’s an amazing reader, fabulous at puzzles, he can name the actors names of any marvel character and knows anything there is to know about super powers.

He’s tidy, smart, sweet and particular.

By the age of two he knew all his colours, shapes, how to work the iPad, the apps and how to navigate round them better than I do now.

He can be loving, so loving, caring and thoughtful and so intelligent in his chosen fields.

I never realised as he was my first child, all the things he didn’t do. He didn’t wave goodbye, he didn’t like cuddles and he was always on the go. I just thought he didn’t like goodbyes, that he wasn’t an overly affectionate child and that he was ‘just a boy’. I was…

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A Heart Touching Message By A Woman


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Someone asked her, Are u a working woman or a housewife?
She replied: Yes, I am a full-time working housewife.

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I work 24 hours a day.
I’m a Mum.
I’m a Wife.
I’m a Daughter.
I’m a Daughter-in-law.
I’m an Alarm clock.
I’m a Cook.
I’m a Maid.
I’m a Teacher.
I’m a Waiter.
I’m a Nanny.
I’m a Nurse.
I’m a Handyman.
I’m a Security officer.
I’m a Counsellor.
I’m a Comforter.
I don’t get holidays.
I don’t get sick leave.
I don’t get day off.
I work through day and night.
I’m on call all hours and get paid with a sentence. ***What Do u Do All Day??

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A Woman Brought Her Autistic Son To The Theater. How One Actor Responded Is Going Viral


It was a matinee showing of the Broadway play “The King and I” and the excited audience members took their seats. One mother that was attending, however, decided to bring her autistic son with her and hoped that he wouldn’t be a distraction to the other members of the audience. When the play started, however, […]

Source: A Woman Brought Her Autistic Son To The Theater. How One Actor Responded Is Going Viral

Decision Maker Tells Mother Her Daughter’s Terminal Organ Failure Is ‘Your Opinion’


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I found this heartbreaking story on the ATOS Miracles Facebook page. I usually share the links to Facebook statuses directly from Facebook, but this story is so heartbreaking that I don’t want to take the chance of anyone not being able to read it. Please share as widely as possible.

This mother talked to the Decision Maker last week and told him, “my daughter is dying from organ failure”. He said ‘that’s your opinion’. Her daughter had just been turned down for PIP for the third time. She has had a lifetime of health problems which have spread to many other illnesses. Aged 28 she now has end stage organ failure and will die without transplants. Whether a donor comes or not she is living the quality of life of someone at the end of their life. No PIP.

To anyone terminally ill your claim should get fast-tracked with a…

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Parents fatally whipped teen who wanted to quit church, New York court hears


Original post from The Guardian

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  • Deacon testifies at hearing for parents of Lucas and Christopher Leonard
  • Boys attacked at ‘spiritual counseling session’ at New Hartford church
Deborah Leonard and Bruce Leonard sit next to their attorneys in court. Photograph: Pool/Reuters
Deborah Leonard and Bruce Leonard sit next to their attorneys in court. Photograph: Pool/Reuters

A mother and father whipped their 19-year-old son to death with an electrical cord during an all-night spiritual counseling session triggered by his desire to leave their church, a a New York court has heard.

Lucas Leonard was subjected to a 12-hour ordeal by his parents, sister and fellow church members at the Word of Life Christian church in New Hartford, New York, on Sunday, police and witnesses alleged.

His 17-year-old brother Christopher was also beaten and was admitted to hospital in a serious condition.

The parents, Bruce and Deborah Leonard, are accused of manslaughter. At a court hearing on Friday, a judge ruled there was sufficient evidence to sustain the charges.

Four other church members, including the victims’ 33-year-old sister, Sarah Ferguson, have been charged with assault. Their hearings will be held later. All six defendants have pleaded not guilty.

Church deacon Daniel Irwin testified at the hearing that he saw Lucas bleeding and in apparent agony. “Lucas was rolling himself back and forth on the floor and making a sustained, monotone moaning,” he said.

He said he received a text message after services ended at 8pm on Sunday saying the Leonard family would be part of a counseling session with the church’s pastor, Tiffanie Irwin, his sister. Irwin said he was not told what the session was about and didn’t participate.

Watching through a window at around 10pm, Irwin said, he saw Bruce Leonard hit Lucas up to six times with what appeared to be a belt and hit Christopher. The young men winced, Irwin said, but Lucas did not try to defend himself.

Their mother hit Lucas with a cord out of anger over “things that he had said”, investigator Todd Grant testified. He said he had not asked her what those things were. A neighbor, James Constantine, said Lucas had talked about moving on and had mentioned that he might join the army. Another investigator, Jason Nellis, said the mother told police the group took turns hitting Lucas and holding him down.

Irwin said that around 10am on Monday panicked church members ran up to him and said they thought Lucas was dead. Irwin said he dashed into the church to find Lucas lying motionless on the floor, and Lucas’s father and brother and Irwin’s mother, church spiritual leader Traci Irwin, trying to resuscitate him. Lucas was taken to a hospital where he was pronounced dead.

The defendants include Daniel Irwin’s brother, Joseph Irwin. Asked after the hearing whether Daniel Irwin or any additional relatives could face charges, the Oneida County district attorney Scott McNamara said prosecutors “are looking at everybody that’s involved”. He later said he anticipated more people could be charged. Traci and Tiffanie Irwin have not been charged and have not commented.

Bruce Leonard’s attorney argued during the hearing that prosecutors had not proved the couple intended serious injuries to their son. Deborah Leonard’s lawyer said the mother felt helpless to stop an “intervention” that she had not expected to become so harsh.

The roughly 30-year-old Word of Life church once had perhaps 40 or more members but now counts closer to 20, authorities said.

There are thousands of small, independent Christian churches around the US, many of them following a very strict fundamentalist theology, said David Bromley, a religion professor at Virginia Commonwealth University. Their beliefs can lead to strong resistance when a member wishes to leave, he said.

“If you get into a very conservative group where there is only one way and God’s wrath is about to be unleashed on humanity and we’re the faithful remnant, then leaving the group is a very serious condition, from the point of view of members,” Bromley said.           ………………’

Please Stop Pretending and Just Face It: There’s Nothing ‘Special’ About Special Needs!


Original post from Productive Muslim

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I’m not a writer or a psychologist or the ‘happy girl’ most people know me as. Today I’m just a defeated mother who is tired of pretending she’s strong enough to handle this challenge.

Today, I only want to sit with moms like me, who are tired of listening to people say “God gave you a ‘special’ child because you’re a special mom”, or “You’re blessed with a rare gift”. I want to hug the moms holding back their tears and screams as they watch their disabled children struggle through life; rejected, ridiculed and shunned by a society they can’t possibly fit in. I want to pause this roller-coaster of emotions everyone thinks we are gifted and lucky to be on. Today I stand on solid ground holding hands with my own kind, and I ask with all honesty: how does a mother of a normal child feel when she hears he’s being bullied at school? How would you feel if your child is never invited to birthday parties or family gatherings? How would they feel if your friends are scared of your little son or daughter? If doctors tell you your child will never be able to go to college or work or drive or get married? We all know it’s in Allah’s subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) Hands in the end, but how would you feel hearing it? 

Perhaps people think raising a child with special needs is a gift. But how can a gift give you so much pain? How can a blessing break your heart? In this article, I share with you an example of the daily challenges I may face with my son, and explain my guide for mothers to be productive when raising a special needs child.

Trouble lurked on the horizon

Not only was the cute little girl crying at the top of her lungs; she was wearing a RED t-shirt! Those were all the triggers my son needed to attack her. And even though I’m known to have the memory of a gold fish, and this one incident happened many years ago, I still remember it vividly…

It was supposed to be a beautiful day. We were at the playground and I had that extra sense of triumph of having everything under control. No shoes, all-cotton clothing with tags all cut out and he hadn’t had any sugar, fruits or ketchup, so according to my calculations, the chances of him acting up were pretty low that day.

I was miserably wrong. Even though it was a split second, it all happened in slow motion.

I was holding my son’s hand and carrying my baby girl in the other arm. The sounds of the cries echoed in my ears and I saw the look on my son’s face change. I quickly put my baby in her stroller as I felt his jaws clench and his little hand squirming away from my tight grip. He ran like a tiger towards the cute, innocent girl, and I knocked over a chair trying to catch up with him. I finally grabbed him from his shirt before he reached the girl, whom at this point had stopped crying from the shock of what was about to happen, yet still had her mouth and eyes wide open. Her mom started screaming, which aggravated my son even more as he took out his anger on me. He slapped me hard on the face, swearing all kinds of obscenities then kicked me in the stomach. Amidst the chaos, I motioned to the mom to take her girl and walk away, hardly missing the dirty look she gave me.

“Some women are just not allowed to be mothers!” I heard her tell her friends who also turned around to stare me down.

I bolted my son with my arms only to find another woman tapping me on the back and handing me my screaming daughter. “You really shouldn’t leave your baby unattended,” she said with disgust. “It’s not her fault you can’t control your son!”

I thanked her with an inaudible whisper before deciding to never return to the playground again. My tears rolled down all the way home, not even feeling the pain of my son’s teeth digging into my skin. Biting at that time was one of the few skills he used to calm himself down.

I mustered all my energy to get through the tantrums and breaking of stuff, guarding my daughter’s life from my son’s sudden unexpected blows till bedtime. Then I sat alone in the corner, just staring at the wall in utter silence, too drained to cry.

After all, it was supposed to be a beautiful day…

Denial drags us down

With a wide spectrum of disorders ranging from ADHD, autism to Down’s Syndrome, every child is different and no ‘one solid advice’ will cut it. Medications have catastrophic side effects and some disorders have no known cures yet. I remember after two weeks of constant testing, how uncomfortable the neurosurgeon was when he said, “You need to come to terms with your son’s reality. Sugarcoating the truth will only set you up for a huge disappointment. Therapy can help him cope but no one can heal him completely.”

“God can heal my son. Miracles happen everyday!” I replied with conviction.

And so I held on to my faith. I still put him in mainstream schools, got him shadow teachers and demanded he gets the academic education he deserved. Denial was the only tool I had at my disposal until the powers of it ran out. I prayed for miracles but nothing changed. I stayed up night after night asking Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) for help, my tears flowing non-stop as I begged and pleaded and supplicated for a solution.

“Mommy, what are you doing?”, my son asked one day.

“I’m talking to Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He), asking Him for help with something,” I said, wiping my tears.

“I want to talk to Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) too”, my son said. “I want to ask Him not to make you sad anymore.”

“Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) loves us so much and He is so kind! Do you really think He would want to make anyone sad?” I asked.

Hearing myself say those words, hypocrisy stared back at me with a smirk. If I was so sure of Allah’s subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) love (which I am) then why was I sitting here feeling sorry for myself like I’m being punished for something I didn’t do? Why was I trying to convince Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) that I have unwavering faith, and then break down when He tests it?

“I will tell Him I don’t want a sad mom!”, my son said, interrupting my thoughts. “Give me Allah’s subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) phone number!”

My son’s innocence replaced my bitterness with laughter. That day I stopped waiting for a miracle, for I realized that you can’t hope to swim without getting wet, you can’t pass an exam without studying, and you can’t jump high without bending your knees. I realized we need genuine faith for miracles to happen and so I stopped begging Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He)not to test me, because big rewards require huge efforts. And I’m truly desperate for the biggest reward of all: seeing Allah’s subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) Face in heaven.

It’s not what you see, it’s how you see it

I wish I had a magic wand or a specific piece of advice to help every parent reading this article, but each case is just as unique as each of our children’s needs, and it takes a lot of trial and error to figure out a productive pattern that works. I do have something else to give though, and once you allow yourself to see it with your heart, you’ll realize it surely does put your mind to rest. Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) says:

“So verily, with the hardship, there is relief. Verily, with the hardship, there is relief.” [Quran: Chapter 94, Verses 5-6]

Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) never said we won’t face difficulties in this life, but He promised He will put ease in every hardship. Not before or after hardship, but along side of it. For every negative there must be a positive to balance it out, otherwise we would have collapsed a long time ago. It’s not the problem that’s affecting us, it’s how we deal with the problem that’s making it that much harder. It’s us being too drained to search for the comfort within the suffering that’s making us sad and broken. That we do not see Allah’s subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) blessings, doesn’t mean it’s not there.

So allow me to share my personal endurance guide, complied after over ten years of downfalls and endless drama.

The 7 rules of survival

  1. Ask Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) to help you through this. Ceaselessly. Consistently. Pleading while making sincere dua works!
  2. Stop resisting and start accepting. Your life has changed so don’t go against the current. When necessary, adjust your schedule, outings and behavior according to your child’s special needs. If your child is aggressive, you’ll have to think of other kids’ safety and keep him or her away. Special needs schools are your best option. Trained professionals will guide you on how to create a new, easier lifestyle.
  3. Put your ego to the side. Apologize and explain your child’s condition to strangers when things get rough. I found that people become very sweet and helpful once they understand the situation.
  4. Take a break before you break down. Spoil yourself every now and then with a spa, alone time, or some fun with your friends. Find a trusted someone to take care of your child even if it’s for a couple of hours once a week. Your child will be okay, don’t worry. Well-rested parents make better parents.
  5. Join support groups, look up nearby facilities that provide activities for special needs kids, and share tips with other parents who are going through the same struggle. It’s soothing to realize you’re not alone in this. I personally met wonderful families through organizations like Unique and Autism Speaks.
  6. Don’t forget your other children! You’re not the only one carrying this load; your special child’s siblings are carrying it too. Let them voice out their feelings and get the emotional support they need before asking them to help out or cooperate.
  7. I firmly believe that every child, with special needs or not, has a unique talent gifted by Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He). Find that genius flair and pursue it to the fullest. For example, it may just be me, but I believe my son is super-talented in soccer and he is destined to be the next Lionel Messi In sha Allah! Maybe some of our kids don’t have the mental capacity to believe in themselves, but us parents have enough faith and will to believe in them.

Truth is very different from reality

I remind myself before anyone else to zoom out and see the bigger picture. All this agonizing sorrow is perhaps a darker shade within a colorful portrait. The test is only a means to achieve a goal we choose. We can either resist the harsh reality or accept the blessed truth behind it. We can complain and scream “why me?!”, wasting precious productive years of our lives, or we can accept that life in this world was never meant to be perfect, realizing only those with great stamina and perseverance can reach the top, and finally enjoy that breathtaking view in Paradise. Remember the hadith says:

A man once asked Prophet Muhammad ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him): “Which of the people is tried most severely?” He said: “The Prophets, then those nearest to them, then those nearest to them. A man is tried according to his religion; if he is firm in his religion, then his trials are more severe, and if he is frail in his religion, then he is tried according to the strength of his religion. The servant shall continue to be tried until he is left walking upon the earth without any sins.” [At-Tirmidhi]

We hear this loud and clear, my beloved Prophet ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him). Loud and clear.

“Okay fine!”, I suddenly giggle like a little child. “Perhaps we are special after all.”

Are you a parent to a special needs child? What other tips do you have for coping with some of the challenges you face? In what ways can other people show more empathy and understanding instead of being judgmental?   ……….’